Friday, August 26, 2011

There’s Reality Television…and Then There’s the REALITY of Marriage: The Kim Kardashian Production…Ooops, I Mean, Wedding

While a week has already been passed and the loved up pair of Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries are lounging around the Isle of Capri, this Reality Royal Wedding continues to make the news. It was just reported that she made $17 million off her own wedding…that’s made, not paid!

Quite a long way for Ms. Kardashian – now Mrs. Humphries (as her track suit so elegantly stated) – since the days of the Ray J sex tape and season one of “Keeping Up with the Kardashians.” Now, a fashion icon and a lifestyle brand, Kim Kardashian epitomizes what reality television can do for a person. But, what does TV do to a marriage?

While we all wish her and Mr. Kardashian the best (let’s be honest, we know who wears the pants in this relationship!), I often wonder about the shelf life of a marriage between a high-profile woman and the man they marry, especially one that will continue to play out as part of a reality show (in this case, both the “Keeping Up” show and the second season of “Kourtney and Kim” set in New York). On top of that, Kim has even publicly mentioned doing a show with Kris à la Khloe and Lamar, her sister and brother-in-law.

While Kim is a pro in front of the reality camera, Kris is new to the game and may have concerns, especially when the first few years of marriage are already full of pressure and complex emotions as spouses try to settle into their roles and establish ground rules. But, to have a camera in your face at the same time can simply exacerbate any early problems. Let’s not forget other reality television marriages gone wrong like Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey, Jon and Kate, and Adriana Curry and that guy from The Brady Bunch. All of these examples illustrate that any relationship in its infancy is more vulnerable than when it has the time to mature, strengthen, and grow in resilience – off-camera, preferably.

Even worse will be the gossip mags and other sources of negativity that will be sure to attack their marriage and kick the rumor mill into overdrive. For example, he’s seen out at a restaurant with a female friend—CHEATING! She’s out of the country at a magazine shoot—TROUBLE IN PARADISE! It’s a lot of pressure for a young marriage to take. There is reality television and then there is the reality of marriage.

I only hope that Kim and her pro-basketball beau play it safe and keep their nuptials and their marriage as personal and private as they can. If they can carve out a quiet corner for themselves—and Kim’s move to the same part of the country as Kris’ team is a great start—perhaps they can get the time they to work on the growth and maturity that is essential to a healthy, long-lasting marriage.

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Keep it honest!

I have a whirlwind ahead of me. I will be leaving for London today and shortly after I return a trip to Atlanta, GA and both sides of the state of Ohio. Also please check out my most recent media interview you can download it here:

Recently on an episode of how I met your mother Lilly was very deceptive with her husband Marshall. She ran up over $100,000 on personal credit cards without ever telling him. When it was time for him to decide upon which kind of job to get he was forced to taking the higher paying job which was going to make him personally miserable because they needed the money to pay off her debt.

It is important to be honest from day one about your financial situation. Now ladies I'm not saying to spill your beans on the first date. However, once you are seriously considering spending the rest of your life with someone it is time to come clean. Credit can have a minimum 7 year impact on the marriage.

Don't deceive someone into loving you! Be honest at all times.
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