1) Compatibility – "That's the absolute, ultimate key,” she said. “Being congruent with your mate; being a suitable, compatible mate for a lifelong relationship.”
People should check to see if they're compatible with their mates before getting married, but they should also continue to do so even during marriage. “We can purposefully and wisely ensure that we're navigating ... through some of those channels of life, or courses of life, in unison.”
2) Communication – "Communication is sharing, talking, stay on the same page."
3) Authenticity – "Authenticity is just being yourself,” she said. “I think that we need to be able to be loved as the person that we really are. And we remove a lot of the barriers when we're just really ourselves and we give a clear picture of who our mate needs to love."
4) Acceptance – "Acceptance is accepting people for who they are, and accepting things for what they are, and they're not always ideal."